InstantForum.NET v4.1.2HorseChannel.com Message Boardhttp://board.horsechannel.com/forums@bowtieinc.comMon, 15 Mar 2010 23:49:46 GMT20http://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxThankyou Woodrow, I will definately check those out. You have been very helpful. <br><br> And Lady, I thought about this a bit before posting it. Becuase everyone is different, but I want to encourage you to push on with this new horse. I know the raw, empty, festering pain that comes with being without your horse. And I know what it's like to feel overwhelmed around other horses. I had been exercising a friends horses for her prior to minnies departure, and after Minnie left I felt weak and overwhelmed and stressed around the other horses. Like I wasn't ready. But when I decided I was ready a few months later, it was all gone. It was more convinient for my parents for me not to go riding this week. Or the next or the next untill we just lost touch with that friend. And it's not convinient for me to take lessons either. And now I'm in the hole regretting letting myself be weak. Your situation may be different intirely and I hope that it is. But stAay strong. Stay with it. You don't have to ride or train right now, but be a frequent visitor to the barn. Don't let go. <br> Best wishes And love<br> CatTue, 03 Nov 2009 13:57:36 GMTMissingMousehttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxFree, national, confidential hotline phone services for teens dealing with grief (free phone counseling just for teens)<br><br>The Grief Recovery Institute<br>800-445-4808<br><br>Youth Crisis Hotline<br>800-448-4663<br><br>Teen Age Grief Incorporated (TAG)<br>818-997-0391Mon, 02 Nov 2009 20:32:32 GMTWoodrows Mommyhttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxThanks guys. <br><br> Unfortunayely I'm homeschooled. :( no councilling for me. <br><br> And my parents aren't letting me do horses anymore. They have been putting it off since before Minnie went home. :'( <br><br> I will check out the links posted. I really appreciate the responses. Talking feels good.Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:28:46 GMTMissingMousehttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxI know what you're going through. I just lost my gelding about a month and a half ago. I've cried everyday since and I don't know if I'll ever stop. He was my best friend. So young and healthy and before I knew it I had a vet saying I have to put him down and take him for testing. Im lost without his neigh every morning for breakfast. I don't know what happened to him I just know that he's gone. I bought a new horse maybe 2 weeks after because friends and family pushed me to stay in horses. But truth is I'm not ready for it. I ride her and I think ok, when is Charlie coming home? I want my pretty paint that I could let out to roam free on my grass in my front yard. I always said if he was human Id marry him. All i know is horses come and they go. but NOTHING can ever replace that special one that leaves a hoofprint on your heart. Don't ever forget Minnie and remember that you made her better! You gave her the BEST years of her life and because of you that horse is smiling saying, thats my human down there and no other horse will ever have her like I had her. When I get seriously lonely and depressed I smell a lock of Charlie's mane that I keep in a plastic bag on my dresser. It may be creepy but that smell is still there on his mane and it may make me cry even harder some days but I know he was real and I know he was mine. He's waiting for me up there somewhere and I'll see him again. As you will see Minnie again. Counseling may help you but it also may not. I know WAY to many people who think loving an animal the way we do is wrong and unhealthy. My boss yelled at me just days after losing Charlie. She said I need to forget it and move on, it's just a horse. Never forget Minnie, just remember everything you did for her. If horses are truly a passion of yours she'll understand when you start to ride again.Mon, 02 Nov 2009 13:39:49 GMTladyhttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxmaybe you should get a new horse.<STRIKE> replace </STRIKE>thats not the word to use here. It would be a new focus, and it's definatly not replacing, just showing a horse the same love, and allowing it to be in good arms. im very sorry about the loss :'( they're VERY upsetting, and the way I could move on was to try a new horse, see how it feels to gain a bond again.Mon, 02 Nov 2009 11:54:00 GMTgraciex3http://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxHorseChannel.com has some articles that offer resources and ways to cope with the loss of a horse. Here are the links:<br><br>Coping With Loss<br>Coping with the loss of your horse: 15 ways to honor the bond you shared.<br>http://www.horsechannel.com/horse-keeping/coping-with-loss-9455.aspx<br><br>Coping With Loss<br>Several sites on the web offer support for those grieving the loss of a horse.<br>http://www.horsechannel.com/horse-resources/horse-loss.aspxFri, 23 Oct 2009 13:36:00 GMTHC Community Moderatorhttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxNot everyone handles grief the same way. It is much harder for some people than others. Talking to people about your loss and the support your friends can give you usually will help the healing process. Some of us will need professional help to come to terms with a loss. I agree with Woodrow's Mommy that you should seek out some sort of counselor to help. I myself deal with depression on a regular basis and losing one I love (be it human or animal) is very hard for me, so I understand what you are going through. You can never bring back your Minnie, but you do have your memories and, in time, you will make more memories with another horse. You will know when it is time. It may be hard to ask for help, but you really should. Good luck!Thu, 22 Oct 2009 21:20:19 GMTSam's Momhttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxSeeing that you've had a year since your loss and are still having trouble coping, you really should seek a counselor who can help you develop strategies for handling your grief in healthy ways. Most public schools offer free, confidential counseling services that you can access during and after the school day.Thu, 22 Oct 2009 20:59:13 GMTWoodrows Mommyhttp://board.horsechannel.com/Topic308639-4-1.aspxHow do you get. Over the pain of letting your first horse go? I rescured Minnie summer 06 and dang. It was the most amazing relationship ever. She saved me from being trampled, showed me who I was supposed to be and got me addicted to horse company. I had to letm her go to Heaven last year and I'm still dead- dying inside. I haven't been able to ride since becuase my insensative parents can't keep thier word and I am just NOT coping with this yet. <br> Any tips on seriously letting go? What gets or has gotten any of you through situations likethis?Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:45:56 GMTMissingMouse