Forget about 'bonding' and 'relationships.' Start by gaining your horse's respect. All else flows from that.
You gain a horse's respect by moving his feet - forwards, backwards, left, and right, always rewarding the slightest try.
You can gain a horse's respect in three ways, by creating movement, redirection movement, or inhibiting movement. That last way is typically reserved for imprinting foals, severe problem horses, or very very broke horses, as it can easily get dangerous.
Move the feet. Create and redirect movement/energy. When you can move your horse's feet anywhere you want any way you want with a sublte, soft, or quiet cue, and your horse knows this, you will have acheived a 'bond', that is, a level of communication and respect that you never realized was possible.
If you keep doing the same thing, you'll keep getting the same thing.